Bah. Too many replies to read so I'll just say my piece.

I always liked the idea of a "friend with benefits" because of the sheer lack of candidates in the right mind set for a relationship and it is great for mental health (since an active sex life can do wonders) if both parties can maintain whatever terms they're on if any.

I don't know what is official or common but I was always fine with whatever so long as we were open about our intentions and actions with other people for our mutual safety. I honestly doubt anyone would be fond of the increased potential for transmitted infections because their partner is a shady slut with no real cause.

The whole friends with benefits thing never worked out for me because I was always too trusting of the other person. I mean, I was open with them doing whatever with other people so long as they keep me informed so I could A) Know what I'm getting into if we continue what we're doing and B) Not interfere with whatever their plans were. Of course this was always too much "freedom" so the inevitable unwarranted drama would ensue.

My FWB was a failure. We've been dating for over a year now and it's still going strong. I guess it's a good thing. lol

man i miss my fuck buddy sometimes lol... its so funny how sometimes the sex is god awsome but the content of conversation is so poor. i tend to find myself turning platonic (that's how you spell that right?), Platonic friendship into a sexual-noncommitted-friendship, which i find it to be a really bad habit.

My rules: can't turn fuck buddies into boyfriends, and yes do tell if you'er seeing other peeps. dont be a fool! wrap that tool!

That's a pretty bleek outlook neglection. You should not settle for anyone ever. My mom told me that a long time ago. You shouldn't be with someone just because you can "tolerate" them. Your life partner should be your best friend (not necessarily in your case, but there's nothing wrong with that), not just someone that has what you like and you can tolerate them.

On the FWB topic, I've had them. They've always worked out for me. I was honest and let all of them know what I wanted, and what I didn't. They might have gotten attached but they didn't let me know about it. In my eyes FWB are good. as long as you use protection. Don't want unwanted babies or STD's.

quoting Blem:

wish I knew what I want.

i wish i knew a women who knew what she wanted. haha

It's good to know what you want. I wish I knew what I want.

Sounds like you got a few friends? I can't blame you, you gotta shop around, if you know what I mean.
As for me? I pretty much already know what I want, I'm just looking for someone who has it and I can tolerate.

I think working out for a FWB is that you don't get attached to each other and you stay friends during and possibly after however long you're with the person. If you do end up dating the FWB is probably not good because the initial plan didn't actually work out. I don't believe it will actually turn into a life long relationship either. If you only wanted to fuck the person without being tied down then I don't think you actually like them in the first place.

I agree on the rules. Because there isn't any limitation in this type of relationship, honesty shouldn't be hard. Often when you don't want to be tied down you'd want to fuck multiple people, and that can be pretty dangerous to health I guess. Telling the partner who else you're fucking so they get a heads up should help a little.

Well, I am with UF on this. To me, FWB is when you are not in a relationship and just want a fuck buddy. As to whether it works out or not, that depends on what you consider working out. If you mean turns into a relationship, yeah, they work out surprisingly alot, or so I hear. As to turning into a meaningful and life long relationship... neah, not so much, but not less that any given random encounter or first date.
Rules? Wear protection, be honest, TELL YOUR PARTNER!!
Would I? Yes. But I get emotionally clingy, so I dunno about them for me.

Yeah from what I heard it doesn't work out either. There's always one person that's more attached than the other or something. I never thought I would get into one either but I think it just happened somehow. We hangout a lot, not just for sex alone. It seems so far so good.

my understanding was that 'friends with benefits' is usually something you do when you're NOT in a relationship. it's for when you want a piece of ass from one person without being tied down to them.


on that note, no, i've never been in one, and i never will. from the dozen or so people that i've spoken to that has tried them.. they never worked out.