» posted on 9:58pm - April 10 2008 | posted by Rev. Felix Elevenclaw
Ok so here's the deal...
I go to this local music store in my little piece of hell, and this totally amazing young woman works there. Well I have tried to show interest, but admittedly, I'm not too good at telling some one how I feel. I've had a lot of rejection issues in life so this is hard for me. I've always been the kind of guy that has to be totally sure before I'll make any advancements. Sometimes it seems like she may feel the same way as I do, but she works with the public, so maybe is just being polite? I really don't know... I did manage to hang out in the store one day(never bought a thing mind you), and we just talked for like 4 hours. Well I ended up getting her E-mail, so I sent her a message talking about anime, and things, but she never responded to it. Then my friend goes into the store and explains how this makes me feel awkward and such. And she's all "no I think he's cool, and I read the letter and I've just been busy, and a bunch of other things, but she never did write me back. Normally this is grounds for me to never show my face in a place again, but I got ballsy one saturday and wanted to hear a guitar I've had my eye on. Ok... I'll admit... I didn't think she worked that day... was sure... was wrong. So there she was(in all her fire haired glory) looking at me with this guilty spark and full of pre-planned words to say. I immediately kaboshed that plan and very non-chalantly walked right on by. Things got fairly "normal" from that point on, we chatted from afar about the weather and this and that, but I really wanted to say something more important to her. But, of course, I couldn't, though I'm pretty sure she knew. Anyway I just feel like I'm gonna lose what little chance I have at even getting to know this person better, and I don't like to think about another failed opportunity to connect with someone. It's pretty rare that I even meet anyone I even feel drawn to so please help! Any advice is better than where I am now...
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Rev. Felix Elevenclaw · date:
12:04pm - April 12 2008hey thanks for the advice you two... i really appreciate it
i was in there again today getting some new six strings and she was there. i'm really surprising myself with the ability to have enough courage to still show my face in there, but i really like this girl. and today she tells me "i finally broke down and got a guitar", so now we have some definite common ground. i think i might try something on that ground. thanks again for the support... i'm lost here.
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TuLzie · date:
8:15am - April 12 2008ahhhh Rev, i think you should give it another chance. As with rejection, we are bound to be rejected in some way but at least you gave it a shot right? and even if it hurts to be rejected i think you might as well find out how the other person feels. then that would save you from the whole "what if i have done this or say that" deal. ^.^ if you have something important to say, say it, you have today to do it. ( thats my new motto: if i'm alive today and i have a chance to do something, i do it, god forbid if i died tomorrow and don't get a chance to say/ do stuff)
that's my two cents but maybe you feel that its better to not say anything. what ever you'er comfortable with
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Geist · date:
5:13pm - April 11 2008Okay, well I've been in a many of relationships and had bit of rejection, so let me try to help here... okay, the not answering your e-mail thing is kind of odd and being busy is a lame excuse, how long does it take to type up an e-mail, BUT that doesn't mean she isn't interested. Women aren't logical after all, hehe. If I was you I'd just surprise her with it. Walk in there and say something along the lines of "Okay, I've tried to just ignore it but I know that you know I like you and I just wanted to say that if you want to do something some time, even if it's just hang go out with some friends and get to know each other better, then here's my number (have it already written out of course) and if not I understand and I'll just continue like we have been." I know that's a mouth full, but you get the idea. Gotta make a stand.
Acceptance is not as powerful as submission.
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